Do We Need to Accept Everything?

A long time ago one of my yoga teachers told me, “everything in existence is as it should be”. Do We Need to Accept Everything?

And lately, I’ve been seeing this quote everywhere- “Somewhere beyond right and wrong, there is a field. I will meet you there.” Rumi


As a young adult hearing these ideas, I put them somewhere deep inside to ponder. Why is there suffering? How is this compatible with my values? It is evident that there is much in this world I did not accept. And at the heart of this was me.

If you were to ask me, do you love yourself? I would have to say its complicated. And so, re-reading the little book on Creating Affluence, by Deepak Chopra, when I came upon his declaration that his purpose was to heal and to make people happy, a great ‘AHA!’ shouted out inside of me. I have been putting the cart before the horse- the first heal then spread joy. Just a matter of priorities, and it is everything.

How to reconcile my own suffering? Family dramas, the roles we each take on. I was the rebel, the black sheep in my family. I readily embraced this as my only means of attention. My pain was simply the continuation of suffering handed down by generations and it did not bear examination.

I could not accept it. I could not accept in so many ways.

Long ago that seed was planted- ‘everything in existence is as it should be’ by my yoga teacher. For so many years I gave myself radical love in the form of yoga, as taught to me by my teachers: go to your mat; breath and stretch; soothe and nurture yourself. I had no idea the power of it. I only knew that it felt good.

I’m a yogi because I identify as one- it made me special, way back in the seventies and eighties, I was unusual. It was something I did that helped my health, gave me a place in the world because although I loved all the arts, visual, written, acting, I was not encouraged. These were impractical pursuits, but they were my passion, and so I suffered, to my very core.
And it is in that field beyond right and wrong that I begin to find myself and accept.

As we allow all feelings, all our experiences and responses to be accepted, then we step into the great cycle of nature- which is healing us, providing opportunities to grow, and fulfilling a great purpose just beyond our understanding.

Your thoughts on this?

With love,

Frances Adamson is a certified Yoga Therapist, and an art and intuition coach in Durham Area Ontario.

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